Nurturing Your Kids Mental Health Over the Summer Break

Can you believe it's May and the end of the school year is upon us!

While many of us are looking forward to a slower pace, family vacations, and more free time, this can also be a difficult transition time. For some children, the transition to summer can sometimes be overwhelming. Things like changes in routine, new social situations, and the pressure to “make the most” of summer can affect their mental and emotional health.

So, how do we ensure we are nurturing mental health during the summer break?

1. Stick to a Flexible, Predictable Rhythm

   Summer break can mean less routine from the school year, so make sure you are sticking to a routine. Children thrive on some level of routine. It helps them feel safe and grounded. Keeping consistent bedtimes, family meal times, and even leaving room for downtime in your kid's daily schedule provides them with that predictable routine, but leaves room for flexibility

   
   

2. Focus on Belonging and Significance

   As an Adlerian Play Therapist, belonging and significance are at the heart of the work we do. When school activities and sports end, kids can sometimes feel a loss of identity or sense of belonging. Participating in summer camps or summer workshops focused on their unique interest helps meet their social need. Every child is different, which means you need to support what feels good for yours. It's also important to include them in decision-making when it comes to things like family trips, summer activities, etc. Giving them age-appropriate tasks to complete around the house or even in the larger community helps to know that what they contribute matters

   
   

3. Prioritize Connection Over Perfection

   Summer is the perfect time to reconnect with our kids. Share small daily rituals: a morning walk, movie nights, weekly game nights, etc. We don't need elaborate plans to score connection points with our kids. Remember that your presence is more powerful than perfection. Scheduling regular check-ins keeps the summer blues at bay and lets your kiddo know they have a safe place to land. Being attuned and emotionally available makes all the difference.

   
   

4. Support Their Emotional Expression

   Summer break can bring all sorts of emotions out, including the big ones. Create safe, open moments for your child to talk or express themselves to you. This can be done through play, art, or even just when you're sitting by the pool. When challenges do arise—boredom, conflicts with siblings, or frustration with summer learning—resist the urge to fix everything. Give them the supportive space to find solutions and problem solve on their own. Ask questions like “What have you tried so far?” or “What do you think could help?” Affirm their efforts, not just outcomes: “I can see you’re sticking with this puzzle.” Most importantly, model self-regulation by managing your own emotions with mindfulness and grace.

   
   
   
   

   Most importantly, have fun spending time with your kiddo this summer

   
   

   Summer is a special time to slow down, reconnect, and nurture your child’s sense of belonging. It doesn’t have to be perfect — what matters most is your loving presence and creating moments where your child feels valued and capable. By tuning into your child’s emotional world through play, routines, and genuine connection, you’re not just filling their summer days—you’re shaping their sense of self and emotional resilience for life.

   
   

   Wishing you a great summer filled with joyful memories and meaningful connections!